How This Stay-at-Home Mom is Getting Her Twins Ready for School

My twins turned four years old in January. In September they will be attending full day kindergarten.

Where I live, there are two years of kindergarten called Junior Kindergarten and Senior Kindergarten. My twins will almost be five years old when they attend, and I’m so glad they had that extra year with me to mature.

I couldn’t have imagined them going to school last September. My daughter was a messy eater and getting food in her hair ALL.THE.TIME!

My son was also a very picky eater and would only eat yogurt for every meal.

And the biggest thing? They didn’t want to play with other kids and couldn’t leave my side during programs like gymnastics or library reading time.

But now? They are growing up! Since my twins never went to daycare (they stayed home with me), I feel they aren’t school-ready as they should be.

Here are the things I’m doing to prepare my twins for when they attend kindergarten.

1. Sign Up for “On My Own” Activities

Last summer I signed my twins up for swimming. It was a disaster. My daughter cried so much that she scared the other participants! Then they cried! I sure got some looks from other moms!

Ha..they were just not ready to do activities on their own. But after they turned four and after I had talked about doing activities on their own, I knew they were ready.

I signed them up for gymnastics, and they’re doing great. I sit in the waiting room and watch them through the window. I also signed my daughter up for dance class where I sit and watch her dance her little heart out.

My twins are also into other kids finally! They don’t shy away from them and actually ask them to play.

These are all good signs since before, they did NOT like other kids at all (they just liked playing with each other).

2. Get Used to Opening Up Snack Food and Containers

I have a confession to make: I do everything for my twins!

Why? Because it saves time! We are always running late, so I end up putting on their shoes and jackets for them.

But, I know at school, it’s best that they know how to do all those things. The teacher may not always help, and they may be late to go outside for recess if they’re trying to open up their snack food.

So, this year I had to stop and let them try things on their own. Especially trying to open up snack food bags and containers.

My son can open a bag of fish crackers, and my daughter can open up an applesauce container, so it’s a start!

3. Learn to Read Their Name

My kids love when we do learning time at home. I have educational sheets and we do our letters, shapes, cutting, gluing and coloring.

Since my background is in education, I’m making sure they know their letters receptively and know upper and lowercase letters.

I also want them to learn the sounds of each letter, and the kindergarten information packet also told me to make sure they know a few rhyming words as well as know how to count by 2’s (jeez!).

I’m not going to work heavily on all these skills as I know that’s what kindergarten is for, but it is important they know what their name looks like, and I believe they know that.

Next, is identifying the letters in their name and then writing their name.

For now, I’m trying to keep it light and fun!

4. Play at the School Playground

I’m getting them used to the playground that’s at the school as well as where the school is located.

There are only a few opportunities to go to the school.

There’s a kindergarten open house in May, and last month was registration night. My twins were able to go to their school, see their room and meet the teacher(s).

5. Do an All-Day Program

Right now I have my twins on a waitlist for a summer camp. It’s an all day thing for a a few days and I’m not sure if they will be mature enough to go at that time.

Right now, they can be on their own (with me in the other room) for activities, but those are usually just an hour.

I’ll have to decide closer to summer if they are up for it. They do love camping, and the idea of all that and a summer camp sounds fun!

6. Learn to Use the Bathroom on Their Own

This is a big challenge mama! I’m still helping them in the bathroom (sorry if TMI) and I’m slowly teaching them to wipe and take the correct amount of toilet paper and flush ONCE!! and things like that.

Since I have two of them, it’s exhausting (I’m in the bathroom helping them at least 6-8 times a day!).

So, this will be the biggest challenge. I know they won’t be perfect, but I want to make sure they have proper bathroom etiquette (to put it nicely).

If you have little ones, what do you do to help them become more independent? (I mean my son still runs out of the bathroom with his underwear down! What if he does that at school? LOL)

Only Five More Months Until School Starts

Yikes! That’s nothing. There is so much to do to get my twins ready for school, but more importantly, to get mama ready for this big transition.

I’ve been a stay-at-home mom since they were born and I’ll continue to be one (well work-at-home mom now), but not having the twins around means a new schedule.

And, since I’m a control freak, I’ll have no idea what they are doing in school!! 🙂 Just breathe mama!

Over to you – how are you preparing your child for school?


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My baby is entering kindergarten this year too, though I’m afraid it’s going to be too easy for her. Thankfully I am homeschooling through a charter school, so I can always adjust the curriculum. My lo will be 5 next month, and I have to say that the 4.5 mark really brought some maturity and better motor skills – so maybe in July you will notice a shift too. The Leapfrog Letter Factory DVD helped her learn her letter sounds when she was 19 months (probably because she let me play it 3x a day lol). My youngest is almost 2.5, and I need to be more diligent about making her watch that show. I bet that you will see them grow leaps and bounds when they start kindergarten!Reply to Ashley
Hey Ashley! Yes! I’m already seeing such growth since they turned four in January. They will make leaps in their learning over the summer and when school starts! It will be a big time for sure! Thanks for stopping by!Reply to Elna
Hey Elna, My son is just about to finish his pre-k class, they graduate June 2. Is not as bad as you think. Like you, I take care of my son in the bathroom. We don’t use paper though, I usually wash him with soap and water after. I do this because he gets rashes with the paper. Lol. So this was a challenge because he expected the teacher to wash him. Lmao. We got over that hurdle though and he is fine. Don’t stress you will all be fine!!! Good luck!Reply to Shauna
Hey Shauna! Phew!! ha…bathroom etiquette is a challenge for sure! Thanks for reassuring me 🙂Reply to Elna
I just got overwhelmed reading these!!! My son is going into Kindergarten in September. You are doing a great job and have great ideas on getting ready! AND YOU HAVE TWINS! wow! My son goes to a full day Pre K and the snack containers and thermoses were a challenge. Definitely a good idea to practice. He is a pro now! We are working on memorizing my cell phone number and our address Idk why this is such a focus for me but I just want him to know them in case. I guess because he is away from me for such a long period of time now and with playdates and parties… It just makes me feel better if he knew some important info. Deep breath! My baby! Kindergarten! ahhhh! hahaReply to lauren
Hi Lauren, Thank you so much! I know! I think the transitions to school is harder on moms than the kid! LOL 🙂 The phone number is a good idea 🙂 ThanksReply to Elna
Kids are tougher than you think. I was a nanny for a few years so I know all about separation-from-mom issues. What works the best is to give them a big hug, tell them when you’ll see them again and that they’re going to have so much fun doing whatever they’ll be doing, and then leave. Kids whine and cry because parents stay longer when they whine and cry. More often than not, the second the parent is out of sight, the kids are fine and ready to have fun. Then, when you see them again, ask them about what they did and be excited to listen; don’t emphasize that you’re happy to be reunited, emphasize how awesome it must have been for them to have an adventure on their own 🙂 Anyway, it seems like you have a great plan for helping your kids adjust. I know it must be harder with twins, not only because you are outnumbered, but because they can just be friends with each other and not bother with other kids. It’s good to hear they’re branching out 🙂 My nephew is almost 3 and he’s been in preschool for a few months now (2 hrs, 2 days a week) and he loves it! He feels like a big kid 😛Reply to Anna
Hi Anna, Thanks for these tips! I know the first day of school will be a big big day for all of us. I feel my twins will be super excited but hesitant. My local library has a preschool reading program; they go in by themselves for 45 minutes and the last 15 minutes I go in and do a craft with them. It seems to be doing well!Reply to Elna
What great tips for parents!! As a full day kindergarten teacher myself, I know how important it is for parents to have a bit of guidance before sending their kids off to school. It’s a scary thought! And there are so many things you read about having your child know all of these crazy things before they even go to school, and that can be totally overwhelming! I think you’ve hit the nail on the head with your tips. I especially love the idea of visiting the school playground too! And to make you feel better, it wouldn’t be the first time a child has run out of the bathroom with his pants around his legs 😉 haha! Kindergarten is a wonderful and crazy little world 🙂Reply to Michelle
Hey Michelle! Aww thanks! I used to work in the school system before I had my twins, but only with the big kids. I for sure researched what they need to do before school! ha..the whole opening up containers was something I never thought of so I’m glad I found that out from other moms!!!Reply to Elna
Hey Elna, I enjoyed reading this post. 🙂 My daughter actually started a preschool (Montessori) when she was 2.5 and is 4 now. She will stay in this school until she’s ready for Grade 1 (when she just turns 6 I believe). I’m happy in a way that I don’t have to teach her all the things to get ready for kindergarten, because it sounds like alot!! Lol. I know when my daughter first started she was so shy and would cry and cry until I was gone. It broke my heart! But we’ve been lucky that she’s been able to attend this Montessori school, free of charge, since normally it would be $ 20,000 per school year!! Craziness. She’s still having some issues with not eating some days and she refuses to pee at school most days:( She was almost fully potty trained at 2 but when she started school at 2.5 she totally regressed and now is wearing pull ups again half of the time at school. It worries me so much before I feel like she should be completed potty trained by now. ? But it sounds like you’re doing an amazing job getting them all ready! My daughter’s teachers have taught her so much and I just don’t know if I would have had the time to teach her all of that at home. I don’t know how you do it all, Supermama! ? AleeReply to Alee
Hey Alee! I was debating about putting them in day care last year but decided not to. I’m too much of a controlling mama! ha..yeah it’s a lot for kids to learn. I’m not sure if my daughter will be able to zip up her jacket or put on her snow pants, so we will see!!Reply to Elna
This all speaks truth! My daughter is starting half day preschool in the fall and as a stay at home mom I’m already worrying about how she will do. I still have to help her in the bathroom sometimes too! I’m just trying to pray my way through the anxiety and prepare her and me mentally and physically for the transition.Reply to Hannah
Hey Hannah! Yeah, it is a big thing when my twins go to school! I’m so grateful that I had this extra little year with them. If they were born one month earlier they would have been in school already!! Yikes! They are soo little…so I’m not as worried as I know from now until September they will grow lots…well I hope so!Reply to Elna
Oh I feel you on these! My 4 year old starts 1/2 day preschool this fall too ????. We did do daycare for 2.5 years while I was working, and I will say that they will do much better than you think they’ll do. I loved watching my daughter make little friends and tell me all about her day! As for the potty stuff, TMI, I used to just show her how to wipe when she intruded on my bathroom time. Once she got good at wiping on her own, she just naturally started flushing. Then we started talking about poop germs on her hands ?. We got some really good smelling foamy soap from bath and body works and she will ask me to smell her hands after she goes to the bathroom. Hopefully your transition to kinder goes well. I know I will be a hot mess come September! ?Reply to Terrin
Hi Terrin! I know!! It’s such a BIG transition for stay-at-home moms!! There are days when I can’t wait for them to GO!! But, more times than not, it’s going to be quiet and lonely in the house without them 🙁 Thanks for stopping by and letting me know it gets better. I’ll have to work on potty etiquette in the summer as I can’t deal with it right now!Reply to Elna